Re: Dear Hearts

Terry King (KINGNAPOLEONPHOTO@compuserve.com)
Mon, 30 Jun 1997 10:28:34 -0400

Mitch

You should not have posted this to the list . But as you have I will
reply.

.It would be invidious to repeat either the names of those Judy has driven
into lurking or from the list altogether. It would be cruel to repeat her
more unwise comments which are often unforgiveable. On seeing one, which I
will not repeat, a disinterested friend said 'I see you a have a
psychotic on the list'. Is it really 'dirty pool' to avoid compounding the
offence that Judy has already caused. Do you really think my approach
'dishonorable and heinous' ?

You will notice that it is often Judy's comments that start flames on the
list including this one. These flames waste our time and energy. Many just
get bored and go away. It is fine to have a sense of humour and be
witty but have you noticed how often this is at the expense of others?
That is inhumanity.

Judy often grossly overcomplicates things. Her comments about gum printing
usually display a narrownwess of approach: Judy's approach. If she says
something that years of experience have shown to be quite untrue, is one
not to say so for fear of offending her or pricking her sensibilities. Is
it not posssible that it is Judy's patronising and complete inability to
accept that there may be a valid alternative to her view that that is
causing the problem ? Is it not just a tad offensive to accuse somebody
of stalking because one will not kow tow to her self assumed paramount
expertise. It is an unpleasant form of censorship to try to appropriate
the pulpit to oneself by accusing anybody who expresses an alternative
point of view of bullying and sexism..

I have said before that when I joined this list I enjoyed Judy's friendship
and the discussions I had with her. I would have been more than happy to
continue in that way. But Judy saw me as a threat. She has accused me of
conspiring against her Even of orgsanising meetings to do her down. She
even copies her diatribes behind my back to my students and the Lord knows
who else.. Her tactics are devious and underhand.

I reply when people seem to be believing her nonsense.

The list is an important and valuable resouce for, as one person who has
left thew list has said, the' exchange of ideas between people of like
minds'. Let us keep it that way.

I have not stalked Judy. I have not bullied Judy. I have not driven Judy
from the list.

She goes of her own free will.

Terry King

The only instance I know of, for certain, where someone on the list has,
through careless rhetoric, scared away an "expert" contributor, is the one
I'm currently writing about, that of Judy's departure because of Terry's
comments. I only wish her skin were sufficiently more thick than your
(unnamed) experts', whose departure you lament. Because I, for one, am
very
sorry to see Judy go. The wit and sense of personality that fills her
writing is an important part of what gives the list its humanity, and
thereby its value in my eyes. The information shared here on the list is
so
very useful, but the sense of a community is in some ways the most
important
thing.

Respectfully,

MItch Valburg

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