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Re: Brian McNeill



On Mon, 27 Mar 2000, Sarah Van Keuren wrote:

> Judy, thanks for giving me advance warning about Brian's request. It helped
> me to not feel guilty about not totally obliging him. He wanted
> not-so-precious original prints to be handed around. I sent him the Pinhole

In a way I feel guilty for passing the buck, but I figured better not to
say no for someone else, who knows when workshop or sale, or whatever
ensues -- tho, like I said, in this case I think Mike Ware is getting some
kind of subtle revenge !  As for learning to say no --- maybe we could do
a support group....  I have serious trouble with it, too. One thing that
does help is a general principle:  I don't go above 14th Street, I don't
respond to telemarketing, I don't make purely social engagements, I don't
go to the web, etc.  Not always successful, but at least a framework.

However, today I said yes & got delightful reward of short visit from
Jesseca Ferguson & Mark, in NYC for Mark's performance at Greenwich house.
We'd never met, tho corresponded.... think the enjoyment was mutual as we
talked shop, art, & life in art -- also mentioned your name a time or two
in wreathes of glory !

> Journal monograph on my work and through that he can get more pinhole info.
> By the way, it is Stephen Perloff who lives in Langhorne well to the north
> of Philadelphia while I live in Lansdowne to the southwest of the city.

Oops sorry -- you know to a N Yorker it's all the same thing... And we
even have the gall to boast about it.  But glad you pointed it out, save
perhaps serious embarrassment further down the line.

> Brian wanted to visit but I discouraged him because it would be such a long
> drive and I'm in the midst of a project and don't want company.
            ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Sarah, you're singing my song. Maybe a message on the answering machine?  
A T-shirt? A tattoo?

 Hope I
> wasn't too harsh but if he proposes to give a talk he should prepare further
> ahead of time. It is something I'm working on, learning to say no....
> P.S. I do so enjoy your tasty dialogues on the List.
 
Well thanks for that.. I worry about shooting the mouth off so much 
 and somewhat against my better judgement -- a big time sink... the
compulsion to (as my sainted husband puts it) correct the world.
Fortunately I type fast...

Meanwhile,  may your project be crowned with triumph... or at least
satisfaction,

best,

Judy